Is it time to weed?
“Sometimes you’ve gotta weed your garden of friends.”
My bonus-dad shared these wise words when I was in high school & I find myself returning to this idea often. Lately I’ve been considering how our reemergence from quarantine is an opportune time to do some weeding.
A few months ago on Dr. Brené Brown’s podcast, Dare to Lead, the brilliant Priya Parker mentioned that during Covid months we didn’t have to go through the social negotiations of declining events – we all had the same excuse!
Now that we are receiving requests of our time, I invite you to take a moment & pause before you overstuff your social calendar. How might you weed your garden of friends? How might this weeding support you in deciding which social invitations to accept & which to decline?
Carve out a moment–this moment right now!–to consider the below questions. Allow your answers to inspire your non-negotiables, help you identify your boundaries, & support you in weeding your garden of friends.
After everything I’ve learned & unlearned recently, how do I want to show up in my relationships?
How do I want to engage with my friends? What types of situations are nourishing for me? Which situations are draining?
When I’m with my friends, how do I want to feel in my body?
For myself, I feel the most embodied & nourished when I spend time in Nature with my friends. I also desire relationships with those who see the current me, as well as honor who I’m becoming. With this awareness it’s my responsibility (& opportunity!) to ethically end the relationships that do not align & nourish the relationships that do align.
No one said weeding your garden of friends is easy. I am here to say that it is required.
Listen to the amazing 2-part podcast with Dr Brené & Priya Parker here.
