No Expectations: tending to what is
I think a lot about about how setting an intention relates to the experiences we design & facilitate.
While I've identified that every experience has 3 intentions that inform the experience – I also know this is not 100% true.
(Living the life of a Witch means living a life in paradox. lol)
Sometimes there is an intention of NO intention.
Meaning: setting an intention with no expectations.
When we have no expectations, we invite ourselves to pause, slow down, & notice.
When we enter into a group experience with an intention of no expectation, we provide the opportunity to drop into the vibe of the moment & actually tend to the collective.
When we set an intention to have no expectations that does NOT mean we are without a strong, secure, sacred container. As facilitators, it is our responsibility to create a container for the intention to unfold.
Our practice is to not force the collective intention, but rather notice what is & tend to that instead of our preconceived intention.
To be a facilitator of an experience that has the intention of no expectations, we must strengthen our skill in noticing the subtle:
Energy of the group
Edges of the container
Embodied wisdom
When we have a practice in noticing the subtle, we then are able to tend to the moment of what is.
Most of us were raised within colonial academia. In this setting, the teacher has set expectations, required outcomes, & they are always “right.”
Which means the majority of us are coming into our facilitation with the conditioning that we are supposed to be in total control of the intention, container, experience, AND outcome.
But I'm sure all of you reading this know that having total control is absolutely positively NOT possible. (That only results in heartache.)
Instead, if we trade our preconceived perception of control for radical imagination – transformative magic can truly happen.
When we notice the subtle, allow intentions to morph, & release our expectations of control, we are disrupting the systems of oppression that we all desperately want to break down.
So not only can our facilitated experiences be a contribution to collective liberation because of the teaching content & shared wisdom, but the HOW we facilitate our experiences can also be our contribution.
Because when we notice the systems of oppression that inform our facilitation, & notice the opportunities to disrupt these patterns, we are actively contributing to collective liberation.
Then, we notice where we can create change, we move into action.
Remember: This is all a practice.
We can't get it wrong & we can't get it right.
But we can practice, learn, & unlearn.
& together our experiences can help build the world we know is possible.
Want to participate in an event that has an intention with no expectations?
Great! That is exactly how I facilitate Facilitator Circle.
We circle as a group & everyone shares why they showed up.
After everyone shares (or doesn't share – because, consent), then the intention of the circle unfolds for us all.
You don't need to have a clear question or reason to join Facilitator Circle
If you have a desire to create meaningful experiences for people – whether that is a retreat, workshop, or other purposeful gathering – you are welcome in our circle.
